Has this ever happened to you; The one that you gave your heart to drags you through the mud? They cut you down and put you through the wringer and pull out every tactic they can think of to make you feel so low that you just feel worst than dirt? Maybe it goes further than that and they acutally put their hands on you. Then later they comeback with a few sweet words and an apology, promising they would never do anything to hurt you again? And because they seem so sincere, and because they are trying to be a better person, and because we might have been in the wrong in what we said or did, we take that apology and hold onto it for dear life, hoping and believing that things will actually be different? That just maybe this was it? We would finally reconcile so that healing could begin?
I know it has happened to me.
Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts
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Saturday, April 29, 2017
Process Your Anger
*Note to Reader:
I wrote this post in September of last year. Much has changed and I hope to have updates real soon*
I. Am. Angry. I am angry at my husband for falsely accusing me. I am angry that I spent precious time away from my son over an untruth. I am angry because whenever I show vulnerability, it is taken as though I am trying to cause trouble. I am angry and I know it will only hurt me if I let it fester. I don’t know about you, but at times it is extremely difficult for me to process this emotion. Anger is not seen as a good thing. Although this may be the case, it is not true. Anger can be positive.
It all depends on what you do with that anger. Anger can be used as fuel to fight against the injustices of the world. It can be a helpful driving force that pushes you to stand up and speak out when everyone else is too afraid to rock the boat. Anger does not have to be negative. As a matter of fact this emotion helps to highlight when a boundary has been crossed. Anger can serve as a sign that you have been mistreated or that something has been violated. This is completely healthy. But when we use our anger to lash out and hurt others, that is when the negativity steps in. And if we do not forgive regardless of whether we received an apology or not, anger will only consume us and cause further damage to our well being. So yes, it is alright to be angry and it may even be necessary. Allow yourself to feel this and don’t be ashamed; there are many more emotions one may go through in order for recovery to happen.
I wrote this post in September of last year. Much has changed and I hope to have updates real soon*
I. Am. Angry. I am angry at my husband for falsely accusing me. I am angry that I spent precious time away from my son over an untruth. I am angry because whenever I show vulnerability, it is taken as though I am trying to cause trouble. I am angry and I know it will only hurt me if I let it fester. I don’t know about you, but at times it is extremely difficult for me to process this emotion. Anger is not seen as a good thing. Although this may be the case, it is not true. Anger can be positive.
It all depends on what you do with that anger. Anger can be used as fuel to fight against the injustices of the world. It can be a helpful driving force that pushes you to stand up and speak out when everyone else is too afraid to rock the boat. Anger does not have to be negative. As a matter of fact this emotion helps to highlight when a boundary has been crossed. Anger can serve as a sign that you have been mistreated or that something has been violated. This is completely healthy. But when we use our anger to lash out and hurt others, that is when the negativity steps in. And if we do not forgive regardless of whether we received an apology or not, anger will only consume us and cause further damage to our well being. So yes, it is alright to be angry and it may even be necessary. Allow yourself to feel this and don’t be ashamed; there are many more emotions one may go through in order for recovery to happen.
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